MELODY OF ACCOUNTABILITY

"Life's journey is a cosmic dance of choices and consequences, where you shape your destiny—one step at a time. 'You are responsible for all your deeds, both good and bad,' echoing the resounding truth of accountability in the tapestry of existence." 

The power of accountability lies in acknowledging that we are the architects of our destinies. Every success is a result of our hard work, determination, and resilience. Similarly, every setback teaches us invaluable lessons about ourselves and our paths. Owning up to our actions, especially the ones that may not paint us in the best light, is the first step towards personal growth. It's easy to bask in the glory of achievements, but true strength lies in facing the consequences of our missteps with courage and grace. Our deeds determine us, as much as we determine our deeds.

Mistakes are not roadblocks; they are stepping stones towards wisdom. Each misjudgment, every wrong turn, provides an opportunity to learn, adapt, and evolve. Instead of dwelling in regret, embrace the chance to become a better version of yourself. Our actions not only shape our individual journeys but also influence the lives of those around us. Whether it's the smile we share or the harm we cause, the ripples of our deeds extend far beyond our immediate awareness. Recognizing this impact is a powerful catalyst for responsible living. The power of one man or one woman doing the right thing for the right reason, and at the right time, is the greatest influence in our society.

In this intricate dance of life, where every move matters, take charge of your narrative. Celebrate your victories with humility, and confront your failures with resilience. You are the author of your story, and every page is a testament to your choices. Remember, you are responsible for all your deeds, good and bad, and in this responsibility lies the true essence of a purposeful existence.

Life is a journey filled with choices, actions, and consequences. Each step we take, every decision wemake, contributes to the tapestry of our existence. In this cosmic dance of cause and effect, one resounding truth prevails: you are responsible for all your deeds, both good and bad. 

The universe does not lie or cheat. What you give is what you will get.

#Haq_se_Periods

                                                
You,  The spitting image of a Goddess

You a self-made empress

You, dear woman, are everything that’s wonderful

In a society failing to see the glass half full. Every breath, a blessing and a burden alike. Since the day you were born, you fall, yet you rise. But for a week every month, you bleed. You bleed rivers forming oceans of red, And they’ll never get what it’s like so they pretend they don’t know instead. It starts with an unbearable pain Gnawing ache in your abdomen your body at war with itself running out of patience. Girls skipping school women missing office staying at home feels like a better deal than dealing with all this. Cramps, clots, the wretched pain all aboard the period train it’s a natural process, my child mother's persist you’ll get through it. A best friend insists sanitary napkins, check. Comfort food, check. The recurring pain and nausea. Collateral damage you must endure. No, ma. This isn’t what I should go through. This is beyond feel-good checklists.

 Dysmenorrhea- A disease women don’t know exists. And don’t even get me started on the media. They tell you your blood is your strength. Your period, your superpower. Femininity oozing out of your anatomy, just stop. For once, be real. Enough advertisements to make us feel invincible. Enough products to keep the blood invisible. Our mind conditioned to think what isn’t visible doesn’t exist. Surely, the cramps, womanly diseases are nothing but a myth. I know your argument, I know you will complain. Enough has been said about periods. Social media going insane. We’ve liked, we’ve shared, and tweeted, for god sake. Normalized menstruation what’s this about dam ache? PERIODS ARE NORMAL, PERIOD PAIN IS NOT. So stop treating yourself like you deserve this. Like it’s some kind of a punishment you get for being a woman. Stop calling something natural just because, it happens over and over again. You did not choose the disease, you did not choose the pain. You did not choose the mood swings, the bloating the body pains and backaches. Then why live it if that’s not what it takes? PERIODS ARE NORMAL, PERIODS PAIN IS NOT. It’s time to do your research it’s time to put in the efforts. Talk to your girlfriends, best friends, sister, daughter, tell them too. For once, do this for you. Speak up before it’s too late. Raise an alarm, open the dam gate.

WHY SUFFER SILENTLY? when you scream because it hurts.

जीवन मिलता जिस प्रक्रिया से,

उसे ही शर्म बना डाला,

और लोगोने तो दर्द सहना जैसे मेरा धर्म बना डाला.

माँ ने सिखाया था बचपण में कि कभी चोट से खून निकले तो बताना आकर.

यहाँ चोट तो नही लगी पर,

हर महीनें खून निकलने पर मुझे अशुद्ध कहकर,

मेरे दिल पर कभी ना भरने वाला जखम बना डाला.

In our country, you will get alcohol, cigarette, everywhere openly. But the pads in black Polyethene or Wrapping in newspaper why so?

 I PAY,                                                                                                                                                        

 I PAY A BIG PRICE TO BE WOMAN. I BLOODY BLEED EVERY MONTH.

  

एकमेका सहाय्य करू अवघे धरू सुपंथ

कधी या विषयावर लिहिणार असा विचार केला नव्हता.पण बाहेर सगळीच जागतिक परिस्थिती बदललेली असताना एक विचार काय मोठी गोष्ट आहे असं म्हणतात अंत आणि एकांत ह्यापैकी माणूस एकांत जास्त घाबरतो खरंच का?

एका सूक्ष्म कणा पेक्षाही लहान असं काहीतरी आपल्या आयुष्यात शिरत आणी सगळं आयुष्यच बदलून जात. काय गंमत आहे न! एका ठिकाणी जेव्हा आपल्याला आपली संकटे जगापेक्षा ही मोठी वाटत असताना ती या आलेल्या संकटाला सामोर नमशेष झाली.

गेले किती दिवस आपण घरीच आहोत. प्रत्येकाचं आपलं आपलं असं आयुष्य चालू आहे. मला आपण या काळात आपल्याला काय उमगलं, काय शिकलो, माणसं जवळ आली, प्रदूषण कमी झालं या सगळ्या चर्चेच्या विषयावर जराही माझं मत मांडायचं नाही आहे.

मला बोलायचं आहे माणूस या विषयावर. मी माणूस म्हणून कुठे कमी पडते का? याचा आढावा घेणाऱ्या काही बाबींवर. म्हणतात लोक त्यांची कर्तव्य विसरतात आणि हक्क लक्षात ठेवतात. पण माहिती आहे का कधी कधी देव तुमची परिस्थिती बदलत नाही कारण त्याला तुमची मनस्थिती बदलवायची असते. ज्याच्या कडून अपेक्षा असतात तो पूर्ण करतोच अस नाही, आणि अपेक्षा नसतानी जो काही करतो त्याचं आश्चर्य वाटत असं ही नाही.

दारिद्र्याचे दोन दिवस,

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आज या भारी वजनाचा भार सांभाळण्यासाठी अनेक हात पुढे सरसावले. मला आठवतं शाळेत असताना आम्हाला एक धडा होता भारत माझा देश आहे त्याचा तात्पर्य असं होतो की गोष्ट माझी म्हटल्यावर आपण त्याची जेवढी काळजी घेतो तशी आपली म्हणल्या वर घेत नाही. जसं अंगण माझं म्हणून मी त्याला साफ ठेवते पण रोड आपला म्हणून मी त्याला घाण करते. म्हणून आपल्या प्रतिज्ञा मध्ये म्हटलं जातं भारत माझा देश आहे. अपेक्षा फक्त एवढी की  जशी घराची काळजी घेतो तशी देशाचीही घ्यावी ज्याला आपल्या पद्धतीने जशी जमेल तशी. अंदाजा वरून आपण एखाद्या व्यक्तीचं मन ठरवू शकत नाही कारण थांबलेल्या समुद्र हा जास्त खोल असतो.

जेव्हा ही जगावर कोणत्या प्रकारच संकट येतं त्याचा झटका हा फक्त गरिबांनाच बसता आणि बाकी लोकांना लागते ती केवळ आस. मग त्यांच्यासाठी उपायोजना, पॅकेज आणि बरच काही. पण मी माणूस म्हणून जगत असतानी माझी जबाबदारी टॅक्स भरला की संपली एवढी आहे का? माझ्या दिलेल्या एक छोट्या मदतीने मी गरीब किंवा घेणारा श्रीमंत होणार आहे का? अगदी च नाही. फक्त त्याची भूक  भागेल व अंतरात्मा सुखावेल शेवटी मिळालं पुण्य ही तुमच्याच तर पदरात पडेल. मदत करतांनी विचार येतो च की हात-पाय तर सक्षम आहे काम धंदा का करत नाही? मुले सरकारी शाळेत का जात नाही? आणि ते अगदी बरोबर ही आहे. सत्य आहे पण आज लोक डाऊन'मुळे जी परिस्थिती निर्माण झाली आहे त्यामुळे काम करणारा ही काम करू शकत नाही आहे, कमावू शकत नाही, भिकारी भिक सुद्धा मागू शकत नाही. त्यांना नाही कळत भविष्यासाठी तरतूद कशी करावी लागते ती लोक रोज कमाउन पोट भरणारी असतात, मग  मी माझ्या विचारांन साठी आज त्यांना उपाशी मरतांनी बघायचं का. ते उपाशी आहेत लाचार नाही.

आपण आपली मत मांडूयात, त्यांना बोलूया, सांगू या, कादाचीत आज पोटाला चिमटा बसल्यावर त्यांनाही कळलं असेल कि उद्यासाठी हि राखुन ठेवाव लागत पण हे आता नको, खरच नको. मंदिरावर नेहमीच बोट  उचललं गेलं की त्यांना एवढी वर्गणी येते ती का दिली जात नाही. आता तर ती ही शंका दूर झाली त्यांनीसुद्धा देवापेक्षा माणसाची किंमत केली. आपणही आपला मोलाचा वाटा देऊया जमेल तेवढी आणि तशी मदत गरजू  यांना करू या. शेवटी माणसाला एखादी गोष्ट करायची असेल तर तो कसाही करतो आणि नसेल करायची तर तो कारण शोधतो ती नंतर तुमच्या चेहर्‍यावरचे समाधान आणि घेणाऱ्या च्या चेहर्‍या वरील आनंद तुम्हाला सुखावेल. अजून काय पाहिजे असतं एखाद्याला आयुष्यात.

समाजातला एक वर्ग डॉक्टर, नर्स, पोलीस, सरकारी यंत्रणा आपली कर्तव्य जबाबदार रित्यापार पाडत आहे मग समाजाचा एक घटक म्हणून मी का नको? हाही काळ ओसळेल एक नवीन पहाट उगवेल तेव्हा किंमत फक्त माणसातील माणुसकी ची केली जाईल आणि आपण त्याचा एक छोटासा का होईना पण भाग असू.

विचारांच्या समुद्रात बुडताना वास्तव  याच लाईफ जॅकेट घालावं. आभासी जगात जगताना सत्याचा शोध घेणे शिकावं. वाहणाऱ्या प्रत्येक वाऱ्याबरोबर आपल्या दुःख झटकावं, आणि पडणार्‍या प्रत्येक पावसाबरोबर डोळ्यातलं पाणी लपवाव.येणाऱ्या प्रत्येक वादळाचा हसत हसत  सामना करावा. एक माणूस म्हणून जगताना दुसऱ्याला सहकार्य कराव.

शेवटी

एकमेका सहाय्य करू अवघे धरू सुपंथ

 हीच ती योग्य वेळ लाहाणपणाचे संस्कार आचरणात आणण्याचे.अखेर थेंबे थेंब तळे साचे.

# Karke dekho accha lagta hai

SO WHAT?

 “Two powerful, little words I've learned to use when facing challenges, fears, and doubts—so what?”
― Richelle E. Goodrich

Everyone experiences moments in life where you get so hurt, that you officially don’t care anymore. Of course, whenever someone brings up the topic again, it acts like salt on a wound, but your discussion ends with the reaction  SO WHAT? To live a creative life we must first lose the fear of being wrong.

They said I couldn’t. They said wouldn’t. They said they didn’t believe in me. They said I couldn’t because of my circumstances, I couldn’t because of my past. Just because it hadn’t been done before. I said: SO WHAT?

You can complain and remain the same or you can DECIDE, COMMIT and work towards becoming someone that NO ONE thought you could be. You can make all the excuses in the world. We’ve heard them all. But those that get on in life leave the excuses and look for the POSSIBILITIES you might have had it tough. You might have had it really tough. But it isn’t  getting any better if you LIVE there. You have to drop the little story and work towards your MASTERPIECE. You see it so often: stories of those with almost identical, painful life circumstances. One chose to live in the pain forever. Repeating the reasons why they can’t succeed why they can’t move on. The other: use the pain as their REASON WHY they MUST CHANGE. They use their pain as a strength. They use the people who don’t believe in them as MOTIVATION TO SUCCEED. Not a reason why they can’t. When things don’t go their way then don’t say “WHY ME?” say SO WHAT?

Say: TRY ME. when things don’t go their way THEY KEEP MOVING FORWARD.

Your family isn’t perfect: SO WHAT?

You failed in your past: SO WHAT?

You didn’t get the good JOB: SO WHAT?

You don’t know where to start: SO WHAT?

Someone did wrong by you: SO WHAT?

You had a breakup: SO WHAT?

You don’t know what to do: SO WHAT?

No one understands you: SO WHAT?

You feel alone: SO WHAT?

You are not satisfied: SO WHAT?

Most people seem to think that life is against them somehow. Very few understand life is CHALLENGING that Is all. I accept life’s challenge. Plan to work on myself so I can win. NOT JUST ONE DAY, BUT EVERY DAY. SO WHAT they don’t believe in you. You don’t need them to believe in you. They’re not doing the work you are. They are not growing and learning YOU ARE, they not committed to YOUR DREAM. They are not in love with YOUR VISION: YOU ARE. they don’t define your success YOU DO. Nobody gets a perfect life. Every one of us faces different challenges that is LIFE. you choose to be the VICTIM or VICTOR.

Life is better when you stop caring too much.

Once you do this, you will understand what you have been missing for so long. Honestly, Living life without tensions seems nothing less than paradise. Be a real person with a unique attitude. Even if someone doesn’t like your attitude, don’t apologize for it. You are doing what you think is right, and there is no point in apologizing. Make decisions with your mind, not your heart. The heart is too sensitive and emotional, decisions made with your heart is sure to give you sharp pains. The earlier you understand this, the happier you would be. The more you care about the things in your life, the more you will screw up.

In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing. You can't please everyone. Similarly, you can't shut up everyone. No matter how good you are doing or through what circumstances you are going, there will always be a group of people who will hate your moves. SO WHAT?

"Take a step back. Drawn in a deep breath. Now ask yourself  'SO WHAT?' Then, after answering, ask yourself again 'SO WHAT?' And then third time- 'SO WHAT?' Chances are you'll come to realize that the issue at hand is not as dire, detrimental, or important as you first thought." 

Maybe I am not right, SO WHAT YAR?..... That doesn't mean I am wrong.

YES IT HURTS

When you have good
Heart. 
You help too much, 
You give too much, 
You trust too much, 
You love too much 
and it always seems you Hurt the most.

In a rush of billions of people we find some people and we select very few of them and call them our near one and dear one. It become a strong bond of unbiological relationship. 

But meanwhile it's very important to know how you mean to someone because if you don't have clear idea about it then there is chances to get misunderstood. And also to be clear about how someone mean to you because sometimes we feel whatever I act can be better.

The only reason people take you granted is because they assume you'll always be there when they need you and it's hurts when you get to know you tried doing your best and it still wasn't enough. Over this suitation we try to act like what people say doesn't affect or hurt you but it hurts alot because it matter.

You know what sometimes being always right is not right. Because tears are words but the hurt can't express. People may not remember exactly what you did or what you said but they will always remember what you not.

So, never get too attach to anyone, it will lead to expectations and expectations always lead to disappointment. Anticipate everything and expect nothing. Is it possible ?

You don't hate when your near one hurt you,but don't even know it and you don't have guts to tell them that yes you Hurt ?

What we do try to forgive them not because of they deserve but just because of you deserve peace.

Most funny part of the story is people hurt and act like you hurt them and we think it's better to be react with no reaction and result is they take you granted. Remember people need to learn that their action do affect other people. So be careful what you say and do, It's not always just about you.

Sometime people don't have idea how worthless they made is feel. Isn't it pathetic how we waste so much time on certain people and at the end they prove that they weren't even worth a second of it.

But it just like a house when light bulb burns out you do not buy new house you just fix light bulb. So try to forgive people in your life even those who are not sorry for their actions. Holding on to anger only hurts you not them.

And act like " Bematalab ki duniya ka kissa khatam aab jaisi hai duniya waise hai ham." 

Invest your time and efforts who really value them. 'Don't be a commodity for everyone.'

Few Moments That Matter

"Life is always a matter for the right moment to act and that few moments matters"

In a life, difficulties are like an unwanted creamy layer in a cup of tea and only those people get succeed who foil the cream and enjoy the tea.

There was a teacher who is the most successful women. One day she was invited as a guest speaker in a school while interacting with children she gave them a small activity of write up 7 wonders in the world to just check the general knowledge of the students. so, everyone started the writing answer quickly. But the small girl Jenny started to write the answer slowly.

When everyone except Jenny had submitted their answer paper, her teacher came and asked Jenny, “What happened Dear?  Don’t worry, Just write what you know as other students have learned about it just a couple of days back”. 

Jenny replied, “I was thinking that there are so many things, which 7 I can pick to write!”   And, then she handed her answer paper to the teacher.  The teacher started reading everyone’s answers and the majority had answered them correctly such as The Great Wall of China, Colosseum, Stonehedge,  Great Pyramid of Giza, Leaning Tower of Pisa, Tajmahal, Hanging Gardens of Babylon etc. The teacher was happy as students had remembered what she had taught them.  At last the teacher picked up Jenny’s answer paper and started reading.

The 7 Wonders are – To be able to See, 

To be able to Hear, 

To be able to Feel, 

To Laugh, 

To Think, 

To Be Kind, 

To Love.

  

The teacher stood stunned and the madam who was invited as guest speaker was speechless. Because today this successful lady realize what she lost precious moments in a grid of achieving her destination. She was successful but not happy because she never enjoyed those few moments that matter in life. A girl from the small village reminded them about the precious gifts that God has given us, which are truly a wonder.

Do you remember that few moments of yours?  

Moments when you wish for someone, a moment when you cry for someone or someone cry for you, a moment when you sleep on your mother's lap, moments when you feel loved, the moment when you bring a smile to someone face, those amazing moments with your friends when you laugh together, that moment when you feel silence, moment you feel broken, moment when you hear the music. 

flashback bring a smile on your face. But in haste of reaching the destination, we forgot to enjoy the journey. we make our life very complicated, demotivated, deepened, unhappy, frustrated and why? sometimes we also don't know. We make our life like we always need certification from others that you can do it. 

Don't wait for destination start finding happiness while you are on the journey. don't postpone your happiness to them. Value what you have, use what you have, trust what you have.  You don’t always have to look away to find inspiration.  God has given you all the strength to reach your goals. Always go with your passions. Never ask yourself if it's realistic or not. Let everything happen to you Beauty and terror keep going at the end very few moments matters not all.

But those moments matter for you teache you, how to live for someone or without someone. ya, it makes difference but not that much. Recovery beings from the darkest moment, live life for the moment because everything is uncertain. Just feel it, enjoy it, live it either it will make you or break you. A choice is yours.

                                                                                                   Otherwise,        

"We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone. Only through our love, affection and  friendship, we can create the illusion for the moment that we're not alone and that few moments matters."

Broken But Beautiful

   " People don't always need advice. sometimes all they really need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and heart to understand them".  

Independent plant

There were 2 independent houses separated by a compound wall. In one lived a young techie and in another, an elderly retired man. Both of them planted identical saplings on their respective side of the compound wall. The young guy supplied his plant with a lot of water and high-quality manure. The retired man, however, gave his plant just small quantity of water and little manure.  The techie's sapling grew into a lush green, leafy robust plant. The retired person plant was a near normal but much luxuriant than his neighbours one night there was heavy rain with gusty winds and the next day both come out to see the fate of their plant. To the techie's surprise, his plant had been uprooted whereas his neighbour was unharmed. The techie turned and asked, " why was my plant uprooted by the rain despite such good care whereas yours stayed firm and strong despite just a little care?" . The neighbour answered, " look, young man, you supplied everything the plant would need. In ABUNDANCE since the plant would do not have to do anything on its own to search for what it needed the roots of your plant haven't gone deep down. I was supplying my plant just enough to keep it alive for the rest, the roots had no choice but to go down into the ground to fulfil its needs. Since the roots of your plant were superficial rain and wind could cosily fell it down. Since the root of my plant was deeply grounded it could easily withstand this onslaught of nature.  

Isn't this story similar to your partner? some and over possessive and protective of them to the extent of pampering them. Which make your partner dependent and sometimes it leads to irritation, anger and conflict. 

you were so focused on someone you never had, that you lost someone who was always there for you that's why you are enough to know what is love, before falling for someone. And at the end all the things that hurt you actually teach you.

life brings tears, smiles and memories. The smiles fade, but the memories last forever like a plant of that techie. So just cheers to the people who love us, the losers who lost us, and the lucky bastards who get to meet us.

And don't forget " underdoing make plant die but overdoing make the plant weak".  Even If it happens let it hurt, cry as much as you can, but do not let the sadness go on longer than necessary, please.