" People don't always need advice. sometimes all they really need is a hand to hold, an ear to listen, and heart to understand them".
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There were 2 independent houses separated by a compound wall. In one lived a young techie and in another, an elderly retired man. Both of them planted identical saplings on their respective side of the compound wall. The young guy supplied his plant with a lot of water and high-quality manure. The retired man, however, gave his plant just small quantity of water and little manure. The techie's sapling grew into a lush green, leafy robust plant. The retired person plant was a near normal but much luxuriant than his neighbours one night there was heavy rain with gusty winds and the next day both come out to see the fate of their plant. To the techie's surprise, his plant had been uprooted whereas his neighbour was unharmed. The techie turned and asked, " why was my plant uprooted by the rain despite such good care whereas yours stayed firm and strong despite just a little care?" . The neighbour answered, " look, young man, you supplied everything the plant would need. In ABUNDANCE since the plant would do not have to do anything on its own to search for what it needed the roots of your plant haven't gone deep down. I was supplying my plant just enough to keep it alive for the rest, the roots had no choice but to go down into the ground to fulfil its needs. Since the roots of your plant were superficial rain and wind could cosily fell it down. Since the root of my plant was deeply grounded it could easily withstand this onslaught of nature.
Isn't this story similar to your partner? some and over possessive and protective of them to the extent of pampering them. Which make your partner dependent and sometimes it leads to irritation, anger and conflict.
you were so focused on someone you never had, that you lost someone who was always there for you that's why you are enough to know what is love, before falling for someone. And at the end all the things that hurt you actually teach you.
life brings tears, smiles and memories. The smiles fade, but the memories last forever like a plant of that techie. So just cheers to the people who love us, the losers who lost us, and the lucky bastards who get to meet us.
And don't forget " underdoing make plant die but overdoing make the plant weak". Even If it happens let it hurt, cry as much as you can, but do not let the sadness go on longer than necessary, please.
